This series was born from a breakup. I was heartbroken and convinced that I would never date again, that I would be single for the rest of my life. I thought perhaps that might not be so bad. Single people outnumber married couples in the US, but stereotypes about them still abound: they’re lonely, they’re desperate, they’re bad at relationships. My family has been calling me an old maid since I was in my twenties. They expected me to get married, have kids, and live their idea of a traditional life. I was not enough by myself. But there is much to celebrate about being alone, and there are other ways to connect. I sought out other single people in New York City. This city allows people to lose themselves: in the crowd, in their careers, in their friends. One can wander neighborhoods and identities and social circles in a way that isn’t possible elsewhere. I wanted to know what people here love about being unattached. I was curious as to why they were single, whether it was a life choice or a temporary situation. And I also needed to hear what people fear about being single, whether my fears were mine alone. I worried that I’d forgotten how to connect, that my upbringing and my past had irreparably damaged my future. I first placed an ad on Craigslist, in the platonic section. I exchanged messages with several men who were only interested in exchanging messages, or meeting in cars. I changed direction and put the word out on social media. I made a profile for the project on OK Cupid. I photographed friends and strangers and customers from the bar where I work. We met and talked about our hopes and fears before I ever picked up the camera. Every session felt like a first date-I wanted them to like me, I wanted to relate. I learned compassion. I was frequently surprised. I went on over fifty photo dates with people. I sent them short interviews first, and we came up with the concept for the shoots together. I asked people where they felt the most single and photographed them there. I didn’t want them to look or feel the same, I wanted to meet people where they were in their lives. I asked people to tell me their most and least favorite aspects of being single. Many said they love the freedom, and many said they hate not having someone there. The same answer for both. My married friends have said that their favorite part of being a couple is that they have company and support, but their least favorite part is that someone is always around. There is greener grass no matter what our situation, and we all get lonely sometimes. We live in a society that advertises and romanticizes the couple, the happy ending. This project taught me to be proud of being a strong individual, one who values the presence of myself over the absence of another.